Tiger Woods: A Cautionary Tale For All American Men
I, for one, have heard enough about the trials and tribulations of Tiger Woods. What, exactly, is so shocking or surprising about this story? Well something is, but it isn’t exactly what you and everyone else seem to think.
Tiger, whose net worth was estimated by Forbes in October 2009 to be about 500 million dollars, is a man who made his first television appearance some thirty years ago as a nascent golf pro at age 4 on The Mike Douglas Show. By all accounts, this is a person who, like the tennis-playing Williams sisters, has been singularly focused practically since birth on one goal: to be the absolute best player in his chosen sport.
Just a guess from observing his demeanor and hearing his very controlled interviews (not to mention his painfully unrevealing “apology” press conference): Tiger is someone who probably had very little time for a social life growing up. Guy friends, girlfriends, and all that goes with that were likely shoved aside for early mornings hitting ball after ball after ball with his dad. Did he develop like a normal American teenager? Did he make out in the backseat of his car with girls with whom he went to school? Did he go to his prom? Did he ever just hook up? I tend to doubt it.
Spare me the bromide I have heard over and over that all of this is so tragic because Tiger Woods did what he did despite having “so much to lose.” Why are we being so politically correct about this? In my view, Tiger Woods did what he did because he had “so much.” He did it for the same reason that the dog licked himself: because he could. I believe that Tiger did what I would expect any younger man who sacrificed so much in his life to earn $500 million and who is constantly on the road would do: he invited women to keep him company, in any number of ways. He finally allowed himself to enjoy the spoils of his wealth after so many years of having to be so focused and controlled.
The real shock of the Tiger Woods tragedy is not that he cheated on his hot wife and broke up his little family. The real shock is that a man with so much wealth and notoriety even got married at age 29 at all.
This is someone who should have been making up for lost time, enjoying his well-earned freedom to do whatever he wanted wherever he wanted. Instead of getting married and cranking out progeny, Tiger should have been bonding with his best male friends. He should have been traveling places just because he felt like it. As a famous and successful man, he should have been having sex, with any and every woman he desired, all around the world, while being careful not to dole out any of his very valuable DNA to any woman who could take from him what he has worked so hard to earn. And he shouldn’t have felt the need to hide while he did it. This is not sexist; it is common sense, and one thing I cannot understand is that few men have stepped up in an empathetic way and talked about what men really think and would do if only they could.
The real truth about marriage is something that men who look like beaten dogs whisper to each other at Hooters, at strip clubs, at sports bars, at bowling alleys, and even over the cubicle walls at offices across America: marriage is for men who cannot afford to live parallel lives with hot women in expensive hotel rooms. It is for men who need someone to share the rent or the mortgage payment. It is for farmers who need more farmhands when they become too old to till the soil. It is for men who grew up too lazy to clean their places, and so, as a result, are willing to take on a 180-pound mommy stand-in who will clean it. Marriage is not for buff, famous, educated men who have 500 million dollars and the freedom to do almost anything they want.
The risk that today’s successful man takes in family court by marrying or by impregnating a woman simply isn’t worth it. Ladies, close your eyes because here comes the hardest truth of all: most married men in America are living with the best woman they can afford.
As boys, although most American men dream of driving Testarossas or Porsches or Corvettes when we grow up, the reality is that most of us end up driving Toyota Camrys or Corollas: not very stylish or sexy, but cheap enough to maintain and able to last a lifetime (oh yeah, and they don’t STOP no matter how hard you try to make them). Most men who dreamed of driving sports cars as kids are now married to a Toyota. And most would trade in that Toyota the moment they struck oil or won at Powerball.
The Tiger Woods story is more about women and advertising. After all, why did Tiger get married anyway? In my view, Tiger Woods got married and had kids because he thought that it looked good to the rest of us. Such a perfect life and a perfect family would only enhance his marketability to advertisers and to the women to whom advertisers kowtow. Now, is anyone going to argue that Tiger Woods, a man who lived a double life trying to make up for what appears to be a largely lost childhood, truly loved Elin Nordegren? You’re kidding, right?
Prenup or no prenup, a man who has sacrificed so much to become so successful should enjoy as a single man everything that he has worked so hard to achieve. He should not be giving away half of his fortune to someone with whom he has spent just a few years. He should not have to be hiding in hotel rooms, on yachts, or anywhere else. After all, the prime reason that men become successful, as doctors, as architects, as actors or rock stars, and, presumably as golfers, is to be able to get more and more desirable women.
The tragedy is that Tiger felt the need to create a perfect-looking life in order to make himself attractive to fans and to advertisers. Such a shame. He’s the greatest golfer of all time and one of the premiere athletes of our lifetime. What more did he need to project than that?
Tiger Woods had no business getting married or having any children at all so early in his life. And, if you are a successful young man in America who has worked so hard to get where you are, neither do you.
Wonderfully said...
I think this is the topic I agree with you the most.
You took the sentences out of my mouth. As I read your blog I laughed out loud in agreement. The truth can be harsh, but it is what it is.
I'm 36 yrs old, I'm 3 yrs into my marriage and just now am I beginning to attain a new level of success in my career and I wonder all the time: had I known I was going to achieve what I've achieved, would I have gotten married? Absolutely not. I'm missing out on a whole other level of lifestyle. I'm meeting new people and women; hotter women notice me now more than ever. But now I've got a damn ring on my finger
Don't get me wrong, my wife is great and she deserves an equally great man. But boy do I miss the freedom and independence of bachelorhood. I would've been tearing it up today!!
Love your show Tom, can't to hear you!!!
What's really sad is that
What's really sad is that this could all have been avoided if Tiger simply stayed single. He is a warning to all other rich, single men. Instead of pointing fingers at Tiger, men should be learning; if you want to live the single life, STAY SINGLE.
As Tom said, Tiger has enough money to do WHATEVER HE WANTS WHENEVER HE WANTS but stupidly got himself a ball and chain. Hopefully he will learn from this mistake and not marry again anytime soon.
Woods+money+women
It is something that few people, esp. women, would ever acknowledge. Once married, and having kids, a man isn't much more than a wallet, to satisfy the needs of a woman who has been raised from birth to assume a roll as a spender to satisfy her need to better than the 'other girls' she associates with. Altho' Tom's no longer available on air in the SFBay area, I still recall all the hatred women poured forth because he was absolutely blunt when it came to describing the real desires of most, not all mind you, women. And the idea the most men get the women they can afford. No man benefits from marriage, only the woman. Leaving my wife after 25 years was the best decision I ever made. And one I began thinking about after being married for 2 years.
Mark
Please listen to Tom!!
Everything Tom said is correct!
I was about to write a long message about my painful divorce and child support experience, but Tom and the other posters covered it. Guys, listen to Tom! Although what he says goes against popular opinion, he is right! The proof is everywhere! Those of you who did not have the opportunity to learn from Tom when he was on the air, get some old episodes on iTunes.
Marriage is designed to benefit women and children—no one cares about your welfare guys! The judges, the cops, the lawmakers, etc. do not give a damn about you!
Even if the chick you are considering marrying IS truly perfect now (which I doubt, but you probably think so), one day (after you are married, of course) she will decide to change, but guess what? You are still on the hook for all of the financial obligations to her and the kids you make! It is a ridiculous gamble to make a lifelong one-sided agreement in which she has no obligation to have sex with you, love you, have fun with you, cook for you, etc. but you will retain all of the responsibility to support her. In other words, she has the right to stop doing all of the things that provided the motivation for you marrying her in the first place, but you still have the obligation to pay all of her bills (and those of the kids)! It makes no sense, but that is how it works.
Please listen to Tom!
Please listen to Tom!
Please do not listen to the idiot women who tell you that women pay men alimony. Sure, if you marry Lady Gaga and you two later divorce, you will probably get alimony. However, in the vast MAJORITY of cases after the chick marries she 1) stops working altogether, or 2) stops working as much, so guess who pays the alimony? Working less is the (unstated) goal of many women. How many women have you ever heard saying how excited they are to get married so that they can support their future husband? Now, how many women are excited to marry a man who is rich and successful and/or look forward to becoming a mother and “staying home with the kids” (that means not working)? Please do not listen to the idiot women who tell you that women make more money than their husbands. Yes, that is sometimes true. However, women in that situation are 1) bitter toward their husbands and constantly remind them who makes more money or 2) planned that their husbands would make more than them someday. In other words, that was not the long-term idea in the women’s mind but something went wrong with the plan (husband got fired, wife unexpectedly got a promotion, etc.) and that is why their husbands earn less than they do.
I could go on and on, but…PLEASE LISTEN TO TOM!!!!!
Mar-rage
From a man who has been married three times,i will never ever marry again.
Some one asked me years ago were you in love with the woman or the P***y ,well there is plenty of that everywhere, with no strings attached.
And I had to think about it ,maybe I was the BEST these woman i married could get??
Now I am my own man,I come and go as i please ,sleep in when i want no chores or family get togetheres with HER family,and I can LOOK and Flirt with any woman I want with out someone slapping me for doing so.
I chose who i want to date and have had some pretty good looking women who like confident,outgoing men and NOT P***y whiped boys.
Thanks Tom keep up the public service.
Stripping away the hype
Thanks Tom this is the most insightful commentary on Tiger I have read, no hype, no bullshit, just laid out with the bare facts exposed (excuse the pun).
Tiger was a root rat & who could blame him, he had $$$, he had power, what he never had was moral guidance ... not that it mattered to anyone close to Tigerwoods Inc.
Keep telling it like it is mate :-)
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Congrats on the new venture
First off I agree. As someone who resisted marriage for many years and then gave it a shot let me offer guys a few tips. On first dates many women don't want to be wined and dined. On more than one occasion I've received feedback that the girl is terrified about spilling a drink or dropping a forkfull on her dress. Start slow with casual drinks.
If she doesn't put out on the SECOND date then don't bother. Forget about third.
When a women starts playing with there hair it's more than likely that you'll get some if you work on it. Guys let me repeat this. When she starts putting her fingers into her hair and flipping the locks around you have a pretty good chance of scoring. Tell a joke or two, listen to there rant and drive her home.
Once in a while it happens. Some babe strolls across the room and says "You look nice/hot/fun and I'm with this jerk, can I hang here for awhile". Be nice, buy a drink and calmly explain that I'll take you home. The girl is on a crappy date and is so desperate and horney...instant lay. She's asking for a ride and a ride. Provide it for her.
Here's something my sister expressed to me years ago. If I'm in a bar and flash a smile at some guy who just happens to be standing next to me, I'll give him five minutes. Don't be a dork. Buy her a cheap drink, tell a story or joke and give a compliment. You'd be surprised how often you can get some just by being friendly to a smiling, flirtatious babe.
And to wrap things up many women are proud to be whores. Tiger Woods knows that and guys don't disparage that. Lots of ladies love to be looked at, spread there legs, have a beast mount them and just have there way. Respect the inner slut. Be safe. Wrap that rascal and keep her from getting knocked up. Just be friendly, give her some hugs, be nice and a gentleman and tell her she's pretty. C'mon the hard dick tells it all for the majority of women. It doesn't matter how endowed, the hardness reassures that she's wanted, special and pretty.
And another thing, let the tool do the talking, not the money. There's women out there who don't care. Give them the big O and they'll be satisfied.
Tiger Woods
Why is his personal life any of my business? Or anyone elses for that matter? why this attemp by the left ot destroy the man for getting what he obviously wasn't getting at home? I mean, jiminy crickets, liberals love to call guys like me "prude" uptight (not understanding that I probably did their mother and/or sister, possibly at the same time), but they try to destroy a man for getting his kicks? isn't that a double standard? Just let the man play golf, ok? I love to watch that man kicking ass all over the links.
Tiger Woods
There's some benefits to being married as alluded too here such as companionship and being able to share in life's expieriences. And yet after two stabs at it I'm giving up.
My last wife was clueless behind the wheel of a car. We tried everything, lessons, patience etc. to no avail. It was like having a perpetual 15 year old daughter. "Daddy can you drive me..." Ugh. The main problem I've seen time and time again is that once a woman gets settled into a marriage or relationship they seem to desire to contribute less and less outside of the household. I'd pay for everything and she'd stop working. If only we had the two incomes we could enjoy a boat or country club membership but it never worked out that way. Back to the last wife. Through a friend I got her a great job where she'd be making more money than me. It was an easy receptionist gig just blocks from where we were going to be closing on our dream house. It required more than just answering the phone (for the first time in fourteen years she'd actually be applying her college degree to something) but trust me, this was a cakewalk job. Soon enough there'd be the call in sick routine. Then the complaints about being bored and co-workers she could'nt get along with. I found myself calling from work just to make sure she'd get up and get to her gig on time, if at all. Finally after 8 or 9 months they canned her. When the bills piled up I explained that the mortgage can't be paid without TWO incomes, as we planned. Her response was to move out and live with a friend.
There were aspects of marriage I enjoyed that surprised me after waiting 38 years to take the plunge. Bachelor life was great through my 20's and most of my 30's but I did tire of it after awhile. Thankfully no children are involved. And both marriages ended during stressful periods when my partner just threw up her hands and walked out. Both times I desired to repair the damage and see if we could work things out. Wife #1 wanted to reconcile only AFTER I got engaged to wife #2. I'm not making the mistake a third time.
Your Back - Your Right But There's One Interesting Detail Missed
You beaten dogs of a any christian faith out there should point out that according to the scriptures, sex is never supposed to stop with out mutual consent. Holy-rolling-bait-and-switch-b1tch3s always forget about that when they get cheated on by the men they've conned into marrying them because "living in sin" is not acceptable. The religious leg of the argument for marriage is removed because most of these so called religious types fall short in to very important areas. 1 - they think they run the show. Scriptures say the man is head of his house. 2 - wife should have respect for her man. Most women look down on their men because it's chic to do so - they think their "sophisticated", sassy or whatever bs reason they have. My point is marriage for alot of guys revolves around not wanting to feel like God is mad at them (you're an aethist Tom I know, I'm just breaking down where some of our God-fearing kin are coming from). The problem is God laid out all sorts of rules about how marriage should go - once of which is you should be loving, F' ing and respecting your spouse if you're a woman (as well as men for that matter) and women only key in on the "you're supposed to love and provide for me" part. Religiously speaking the women you speak of are just as predatory/deceptive as they men they whine about cheating on them. Makes me sad personally.... The religious version of Marriage is lost on unsavory women that no man dares to correct. I was really looking forward to it but Tom, you and experience are showing me that is not very likely in this day and age . A lot these bible thumping broads that cry about sex outside of marriage and being cheated on ignore their very own bibles when they willfully don't put out for their husbands, behave disrespectfully toward their husbands, cheat on their husbands and have children with men other than their husbands. Don't forget the calling the cops on their husbands for fake domestic violence incidents - many time precipitated by the woman. Lying is a sin too by the way. So why do these women, who promise men that they would love them, respect them and meet their needs, get to bring religion up in our faces when we leave because they failed to do that?
Oh well...... off to Club Bounce!!!
Whores of Babylon...
"A man who findeth a wife findeth a good thing..."
True enough. But a fan who stupidly marries an evil blood sucking psychotic mistrusting backstabbing bitching Whore of Babylon has undoubtedly NOT found a good thing, eh? Dude. If you find that perfect chick - no one in the world will be happier for you than me. Seriously. That's just full of awesome and beautiful to behold. But let's face facts, eh? Far more often than not, men are trapped into marriages that are absolutely no good for them whatsoever.
Yeah, I know...
"Let no man put asunder what God has brought together..."
Sure, no problem. So... who here thinks it would be GOD who brought the evil blood sucking psychotic mistrusting backstabbing bitching Whore of Babylon into your life? Who do you think it is that wants you to believe it was GOD's Fault(tm) that you are in such a wretched mess?
And what about...?
"It is not good that Man be alone..."
And for this purpose was poonanny invented. Here Boy, go at it! What's that? You say the evil blood sucking psychotic mistrusting backstabbing bitching Whore of Babylon won't give you any? No problem. That's why there's more than just ONE piece on the hoof.
Habla, MOSES? He left a 'wife' (AKA evil blood sucking psychotic mistrusting backstabbing bitching Whore of Babylon) back in Egypt and married someone else in Ethiopia. Guess what? GOD had NO complaints whatsoever. NONE. ZERO. NADA. ZILCH. ZIP.
Cheating, schmeating. If the evil blood sucking psychotic mistrusting backstabbing bitching Whore of Babylon won't give you none? Then it is fully expected that ye shall go find it elsewhere.
But the laws are against ye...?
"Yield unto Caesar that which is Caesar's..."
And now you know where she got her lawyers from.
Unta Glebin Gloutin Globin,
Red Ronin, The Cybernetic Samurai
Maybe he wanted one of everything
You're right Tom in that Tiger could have any woman (and the ongoing saga reveals he did just that...). Maybe he just saw this blonde Norwegian specimen of a woman and thought she's the one with whom to procreate. Perhaps, in the response to his Dad's voice from beyond he thinks,' I have a hot chick of nearly every variety except the hot mom/wife one' and he figured he could do (or risk) it just like the others.
I suppose w/$500M I would go for the whole assortment too.
I also suspect he was this way for quite some time due to his finesse at managing a dozen women. Even if one wasn't married, you'd need quite a bit of thought, stamina, money, time and more to enjoy 12 women in your life. He only knew his wife for a few years, right? Did his caddy know before the wife?
Women shouldn't take sides either. The NC Congresswoman (or Gov?) just had news of an affair and with more women with means in the public eye, we will hear more I am certain.
Cheers,
~s
Our society main problem is marriage, not the failure of it
I'm a woman and I have to say.... lets get rid of marriage now! I love when people ask me "Do you believe in gay marriage?" I say "Not only do I not believe in gay marriage, I don't even believe in STRAIGHT marriage"
You should see the look on peoples' faces! What is wrong with all able bodied adults taking care of themselves? Marriage is Communism. No adult should have to take care of another.
Girl, I love you....alright,
Girl, I love you....alright, I don't love you, I lust after you. I just have to dig a chick that isn't going to try to take over my house. I promise to lick your bellybutton from the inside, give you a good, long, hard pumping, and then never call you again, deal?
AMEN!!!
AMEN SISTER!! :>)
Don't feel sorry for Elin Nordegren
Recently I was part of a conversation (with two women of course) concerning how badly they felt for "poor Elin" suffering from Tiger's infidelities. She knew exactly what she was getting herself into. Tiger's reputation, while carefully cleaned and maintained for the general public, was well-known to people who knew him even casually: He was known to enjoy as many women as possible. Can anyone honestly believe that she entered this marriage because she thought that they developed a "special relationship" and he would suddenly exclude all of those other women, and future women, from his life? Once Elin married Tiger and expelled her first child, she hit the lotto. Her joy of childbirth actually was the joy of child support payments and alimony. Sure she probably didn't enjoy the rumors and the thoughts of him with other women. But with the lifestyle she has enjoyed up to now and with the big payday to come, that is a small price to pay.
Family is the DNA of society.
Family is the DNA of society. Wherever it falls apart that society falls apart. Marriage is a great thing that it totally transcends money and accomplishes much more through sacrifice. Not all marriages are good, some are bad, but the institution is a great idea. Just because you cant put a price tag on something doesn't mean it isn't worth more then something you can. Just sayin.
In fact you tend to base arguments against the person, not the argument, in reality does it matter how much money one makes if they have a valid point? The founders of this country had brains and brawn, not so much money at first. Yet we believe the constitution has had great effects. So, you really should admit a poor guy with an ugly wife but who's determined to uphold a value might very well have just as good an argument if not better then a rich guy with a hot wife that stands for nothing except money.
Its all about viewpoints , what do you value above all else? Do you value something that can be taken away in an instant through an accident, is your "love" real when your wife gets hit by a drunk driver and she ends up "ugly" or larger then you'd like and in a wheelchair ? If so, I'm not so sure that was ever anything more then lust then.
If you value something that can NEVER be taken away, then that's something worth living for. Then you begin to see what its all about. Money is ok, but I believe if you love it, you'll never have enough, and you'll never see the real point.
-Dave
Getting married is for the
Getting married is for the poor and the dumb. Everyone who does this are not all poor and dumb. Some are poor, some are dumb, and some are poor AND dumb. When you get married you're basically telling everyone, "This is all I will ever achieve. I give up!" or "I will never be rich!" or "This is the best I could do!" Men AND Women who have drive, goals, and ferver don't give up until they attain their goals. Words like "love" and "marriage" are for the poor and dumb people who don't know any better and will never ever become successful in life.
Silly
It's just another option in life.
Take it or leave it.
Dumb people do it.
Smart people do it.
Rich people do it.
Poor People do it.
Money is not the sole reward for success.
It can be knowledge, skill or a number of other accomplishments.
If you just take a moment and think of all the people that have attained wealth or had a significant impact while married, you will see you are just being silly.
Money is not the sole reward
Money is not the sole reward for success but men, at-large, deifne themselves by how much money they make / earn. I am not silly for understanding that marriage is a bad business deal for men, and I am not silly in believing that when you marry someone you are basically telling the world "this is as good as I will ever do" or that, "I'm a loser". Women you're invovled are generally dream killers, and just because there is a small microcosm of people who have gotten married and become successful afterwards doesn't mean that will happen for everyone who gets married. What's "silly" , to me, is how everyone wants to be the exception to the rule and never believes that divorce will be one day be knocking down their door. What's "silly" is how many men get duped into thinking marriage is a good thing?
Please? Please enlighten me to all of the benefits you recieve when you get married.
Please list them for me. I am curious what will be on such a list.
Marriage, in America, is like
Marriage, in America, is like Communism. It works well in theory but falls apart when practiced. Marriage is about money and is just another way for women to transfer our wealth to them. If you really don't think marriage is based on money try getting a divorce without a prenup. If marriage is really as you would like it to be then women wouldn't expect an exorbitant pay off to leave our lives, but they do. Until this changes and until divorce laws change I agree with Mr Leykis, and I'm going to boycott marriage until it becomes an amicable thing for men ( but we both know that will never happen).
-Harvey Levin's Straight Doppelgänger
you date lame women!
why don't you date a career woman for a change? 33% of women in American now earn more than their husbands you Neanderthal. When divorce happens in that circumstance, women pay alimony too. It's not women's fault that they were constrained from education and jobs. Remember the brilliant plan the US government had to make Rosie the Riveter give her job up so a man could have it after WWII? Women's depression rates skyrocketed over the next twenty years (and counting). And women pilots who kicked ASS in the war were also forced to quit. You think they wanted that? You think any one wants to be demoted from such a fantastic job to cleaning toilets and scrubbing grout? If so, you're insane. Let us work, pay us fairly and watch the old system change. EVERYONE prefers financial freedom and independence. It's not gender specific, numb nut.
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The War
Let's see if can grasp this a bit. G.I. Joe voulunteers by the millions to go overseas and deal with hellish Nazi's and suicidal Japs and then survives to come home only to find he can't get a job. Give me a break. That war transformed society in ways never before imagined and it's impact resonates to this day. Many women who were married to returning combat vets gladly did all they could to bring stability and comfort to the household and if that meant staying home and making babies while daddy forgot about the carnage and returned to the workforce, so be it. It's called the baby boom. While we're at it let's blame the 60's on combat vets. Too many spoiled kids running around shouting and protesting that were raised by daddies still sporting there military buzz cut running regimented households. That's what it was like in my family. Unfortunatly the war turned many men into military disciplinarians, another tranforming effect of an era still felt today. Sure some women were bored but most were happy to be stay at home moms. Women today desire so much more and most men will never be able to be the Prince of there dreams. Why bother.
Women love saying they want
Women love saying they want to be equal, but most just want preferential treatment ( as you know). Also by calling me names you only undermine your argumentand show others that what I have said is true. Are you so devoid of perteninet information intelligence and reslove that you must resort to mud slinging? Isn't your argument strong enough? Your facts are also rather outdated. I don't really care what the small percentage of "independant" women were doing in WWII. I care about what they're doing now; which doesn't amout to much. They use men the fininace their social lives, while they keep their earnings and the vast majority of women in our nation live on the backs of hard working men using the tools of the broken marriage and child-support systems. This does not ALWAYS happen but this is what GENERALLY happens. Even in the case of women earning more money than their husbands, it is rare for the man to demand alimony and most judges never think of awarding a man with said payoff. Women on the other hand almost ALWAYS demand some sort of compensation or a judge will simply grant them compensation. Until true equality on marriage can be reached it's simply a wise thing for men to boycott it. If you ARE for real financial equality then you would agree with me and stand on your own to feet without marrying anybody. In the end what can you do married that you cannot do unmarried? Why do you NEED to get married? Was it good for Tiger? Why do women deserve money for going away? In my view your argument is disingenuous. You simply want to have your cake and eat it too. There are very women who can manage a successful career without scarificing their family in the process. Yes SOME people are able to do this, but it is so rare it might as well be a news story. If you look at all the REAL evidence out their women are not nearly as oppressed as they like to say they are. The truth is that oppression is a good sheild to hide their primary motivations; which is to extract as much money and resources from their hard working opposittes all under the guise of equality. I hope I've shed some light on how men feel for you, but you probably don't care...
-Harvey Levin's Straight Doppelgänger
This whole Tiger thing is one
This whole Tiger thing is one more indictment on marriage and the fact that it doesnt work. What's the success rate for marriage like 50%? Think of marriage like stocks. Would you invest your money on a stock with a 50% chance of failure? This is what nobody wants to talk about. Instead all we hear is how much of a dog Tiger was or how much of a dog Jesse James was etc. Nobody wants to talk about the fact that perhaps miss Elin and miss Sandra B. just didnt do it for their men anymore or failed to live up to their end of the bargin sexually. When women are unhappy its such a tragedy but if men are unhappy in a relationship it gets ignored and dismissed. Its not a level playing field.
Marriage Another word for hell on earth
I personally don't care about Tiger Woods and his problems. Like a lot of men he is learning that marriage is for losers. Men are programmed to marry from early childhood. There is tremendous pressure to lure men into marriage via religion, family expectations, and of the various aspects of media financed by the marriage industry. If there wasn't so much fantasy around the subject, men would drop marriage as one of their goals.
Men who are married learn alot about boredom, disrespect, betrayal, indebtedness,
broken dreams, lousy sex or no sex, and ingratitude from their lovely wives.
I've been living Leykis 101 before I ever heard Tom Leykis. In my life women come and women go. They are allowed to stay around as long as they are making me happy. And when they are not they go bye, bye. I have money, my own home, good health, personal serenity, and FREEDOM.
My married male friends can join me on adventures because they are broke because of wifey and the kids. Besides their wives won't let them. These males are so beaten, it's depressing being around them.
To make matters worse these males are often cuckholded by their wives and single predatory males like me.
Seriously marriage is for losers.
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Art long time, first time:)
Living that Hell
The second paragraph above describes my marriage precisely. I'm now going through the divorce, and she's asking for absolutely everything I have earned, wants me to pay all of her credit card debt, support her mother, and she wants half of everything I will earn in the future. And the topper - wait for it - she cheated on me! (Yeah, I know what you're thinking, but I don't care - it's what happened and happens everyday to married men by the millions around the world - even married, invincible, superstud dopes like you reading this now.)
Yes indeed, marriage is for losers, and I am one of those losers. The truth hurts, but I'm one of the gullible idiots that believed the lies our culture and society tells young males and I married a gold digging b$$$$. Everyone with XY chromosomes should read this blog page very carefully and learn from the mistakes of others. If you get married after reading it, you are a reckless fool and you will have earned and will deserve your future pain.
I may have been fooled once, but it will not happen twice. I am paying for the best attorney available, because I am currently negotiating the price to buy my own future freedom and trying to keep my future hard earned money. I will cherish my return to freedom, no matter the price. Once the divorce is final, no more looking back, and I will have my well earned fun - once again a single predatory male. Better a little late to the party than never - thanks T.L.
True - all true!
The biggest transfer of wealth in the history of the world has taken place in the last 50 years - that of men giving their income and possessions to women in divorce. Why do men believe the fairy tale of women loving them forever and ever...far better to believe in the tooth fairy and 4-leaf clovers!
Golfers are athletes?
Just as golf isn't a sport, golfers aren't athletes. Sure there is some physical element involved in whacking a ball with a stick, but so is doing a lot of things that aren't sports.
Tiger Woods whacking a stationary ball with a stick into a cup-- THAT'S IT.
I'm not saying anything positive or negative about it-- if people are stupid enough to give him money for it, more power to him; it's a free country.
I'm just saying that golfers aren't athletes. He doesn't have to run, jump, slide, skate, tackle etc-- he only has to swing a golf-club and hit a stationary ball into a stationary cup. Not particularly athletic, whatever else is involved.
Sporting vs Athleticism...
Golf is a Game, played by Athletes. Golf is not a Sport. Golf is however, closer to being a Sport than say... Baseball.
You see, in actual Sports, the participants face the same number of opponents on a level playing field. In baseball the best odds you get are Nine against Four - not including the Umpires, who are strictly against the Offense as well. Most of the time you play Nine against One - and the Pitcher is on a mound, higher ground.
Did you ever notice how professional Baseball players never call it a Sport? They always call it 'The Game' instead. Even after they retire, have been 'Out of The Game' for years on end - they NEVER call it a 'Sport'. There is a very specific reason for that. Back in the Seventies some very smart lawyers for Major League Baseball defended them on Capitol Hill against allegations of Anti-Trust violations related to labor laws. Those lawyers argued that Baseball was not a Sport - but a 'Past-Time', a mere game. Congress bought it. The rest is history.
The best Baseball players are undoubtedly Athletes, just as are the best NASCAR Drivers, Ice Skaters or Golfers. But officially...? Baseball is NOT a Sport.
In Hockey, they strike a puck into an immobile net. In Basketball, they throw a ball into an immobile hoop. In Soccer, they kick a ball into an immobile net. In Football they throw/catch or run a ball into an empty, immobile field of dirt/grass/mud/Astroturf beyond an imaginary plane called a goal line or kick the same ball between the uprights of an immobile set of goal posts. Those are all relatively gigantic targets as compared to golf. Tiger Woods takes a tiny ball and moves it 500 yards (through, around or over sand traps, water hazards, past rough grass and towering trees) to drop it in a hole 102mm across in three strokes. That's Athleticism for you, Buddy. No doubt.
Unta Glebin Gloutin Globin,
Red Ronin, The Cybernetic Samurai
RE: Golfers aren't athletes
Are you retarded? That's not rhetorical; I'm asking you a question: Are.You.Retarded?? The fact that Tiger is arguably the most successful public figure of our generation, the only thing you could come up with to poke at him about is 'he's not an athlete"? Nevermind; I've thought it through, and yes, you are retarded.
retarded
look in a mirror to see who the real retard is.
athletes my ass.
Re: athletes?
I have to agree with the guy questioning the word "athlete". If Tiger Woods is an athlete, so is the fat guy who won the National Bowling Championship. So would the National Billiard Champ. It's hard to call a guy an athlete when he's doing something others do for leisure and relaxation. I golf to unwind, and usually smoke a cigar when playing. The only sweat I've ever broken is from the Sun, or from a hike up to a green on the top of a hill, not from swinging a club. This begs the question, is golf really a sport? I'd say...yeeeah, sorta. It's sportish.
Tiger's Folly
100% correct. Tiger got married because it was expected for his public image and advertising dollars that would come his way. His manager at IMG probably discussed this with him years ago. Now, Tiger has destroyed his public image forever. The last 6 months will never be forgotten. Plus, he will have to give up a pile of alimony and child support. What a terrible error in judgment. Tiger went to Stanford and I'm sure got a great formal education. But, give me a common sense, street smart education anytime over some formal college training.
DEAD ON!!, Absolutely dead on.....
Tom;
You are soooo correct about this.
I`m 59 years old and i have never been married, that`s why i retired at about 52 years old and built a custom home that has a bed with a dent on the middle from constant banging.
You just don`t have to get married to get all the benefits of marriage.
Most men will NOT realize this and learn the hard way over and over again as they will think, specially if they are young and green; that the have met and MUST not squander the chance to marry that "Special Love" that surely will never happen again........yeah right........
I love that "Special Love" i feel that night i bang a different chick over and over again........that special feeling of wondering how that new Vagina will feel like...
And then onto the next new one......
ALWAYS exciting!!
S., in So. Cal.
Thank you Tom!
I'm glad someone finally said what we've ALL been thinking. It's great to have my favorite Men's Advocate on a new medium I can subscribe to daily. Thank you again Mr. Leykis for telling the truth.
Tiger,Brett,etc.
AMEN,TOM!!!I've been a sports fan 52 of my 57 years,and I've NEVER lived through an era of such sententious sports hypocrisy in my life,where big boob babes can enter
boys' locker rooms with their 38(D,at least)Specials bopping about,and players who comment on them are forced by the (corrupt) commissioner to apologize.Add the
Brett Favre texting to-do(apparently,41-year-old Grandpa Brett sent some pictures of
his beef to some 21-year-old former Playboy broad who now works in the NFL front of-
fice;sleazy,as Favre's a married man[and as earlier noted,a grandfather whose wife is a breast cancer survivor],but they're pretending this bimbo is a reporter rather than a hoochie who gets jobs with her boobs(amongst other of her body parts,if you get my drift!!)
In short,Tom,Tiger should have hung out with the boys,stayed single and bopped every hot babe imaginable!!